Cultivating Equanimity in Close Relationships
Equanimity changes the way we relate to the suffering of family and friends—especially when we feel powerless to help. When someone close to us suffers, equanimity allows us to remain supportive without falling into indifference to avoid pain, guilt or self-blame for not being able to ease their suffering. Following are the phrases for cultivating equanimity in close relationships:
I care about your pain, yet I cannot control it.
I wish you happiness and peace, but I cannot make choices for you.
All beings are responsible for the suffering or happiness created by their own actions.
May you find a true source of happiness (or peace) exactly where you are.
You have your own journey, and I have mine. May you be undisturbed by the comings and goings of events.
May I offer love, knowing that I cannot control your pain and the course of life, suffering, or death.
Reflections
Which equanimity phrase resonates with you the most, and why? Reflect on a close relationship with a family member or friend where cultivating equanimity could bring more balance and ease?